We are all occupied with the hustle-bustle of life. Work or study from 8 to 6, or more.
Do you have flaws? Nah – We feel we can always fix that as we hustle and grow.
Growing? Nah – We’d rather just flow with the tide and/or set goals like everyone else.
Goals? Yep – God’s got them. We all feel we are special.
A lot of people go through life with this belief that everything is just meant to fall in place automatically. As long as there is a future, it’s bright – right?
Well, being positive isn’t a bad one. I’m positive almost 99% of the time, what do I do with the other 1 %? No, it’s not negativity. I have learned to Self-reflect 1% of the time…Consciously.
And that 1% is a lot
Optimism & positivism without conscious effort is equivalent to being a dreamer, and part of the conscious efforts I think everyone should make is taking time to self-reflect.
People say, “don’t think about the past”, but I think people need to look back sometimes to fix what’s ahead. You fix bugs by reviewing old code.
Self-reflection is a routine you should keep in check. It’s an advanced mental exercise. When doing a mental, physical and spiritual self-reflection on yourself, you have to think about everything possible! Everything you need to change. Every mistake, every achievement, every error.
Use this as a guided approach to build your own self-reflection routine. During my self-reflection exercises, I have learned to analyze:
- My thoughts and what makes me think of them.
- My goals and aspirations
- My greatest fears
- My Flaws
- My current standing in life
- My desires
- My skills, failures, successes, achievements
I find such analysis of myself really useful. Self-reflection helps me source better for inspiration, attain greater motivation and identify my core goals; and self-reflection can help you attain those too.
If you hardly feel content or calm, then self-evaluation and reflection will help. It aids organization and planning – it may be the beginning of a major change in your life.
Finding yourself is identifying and classifying as many aspects of yourself as possible. What is the way around this? Questioning yourself and evaluating the answers.
Here are a few examples of simple questions that can help lead into more meaningful and complex questions:
- What are my flaws? How do I correct them?
- What is my material goal?
- What are my plans for my mental, physical & spiritual health?
- What next after I achieve all my goals and correct my flaws?
- Is there something I am holding back? Is there someone holding me back?
These questions can help serve as a reminder of what you need to work on and what you should look out for.
Also, as much as you question yourself, try to be positive about your answers, observation – likewise, be honest with yourself as much as you can. Don’t lie to yourself.
Here are some more questions that can help your self-reflection:
- What activities do I enjoy doing?
- What activities make me suffer while doing?
- What opinions am I happy to share?
- What opinions do I keep for myself? Why do I do it?
- What are my strongest skills?
- What are my weakest fields?
- What skills should I improve?
The above questions should inspire you to identify and evaluate your weak spots and improve them, while also making a strong emphasis on positive thinking and change.
As you self-analyze more, you’ll delve deeper and deeper into your own motivations and actions, and ask for more personal questions.
It’s crucial to understand why exactly you are self-reflecting. I can say almost everyone has secrets they hide – not just from people, but from themselves. There are unrealized desires, unfulfilled dreams, unused potentials, and so much more.
Your end-purpose for self-reflection is to paint a clear picture of who you are and who you want to be. Your task during self-reflection is to pick up all those small parts of yourself and join the pieces together to gain a clearer picture. To work on yourself, you need information to work with. Self-reflection helps you garner all that information giving you a good head start to command your life in the right direction.
When doing a self-reflective analysis on yourself, you should use both the positive and negative aspects to move your life forward.
When you feel down and discouraged – remember the positive aspects of who you are and use that to encourage yourself and get right back up. When you feel on top of the world – remember to not over-entitle yourself. Remember there’s still a lot of ground to cover and flaws to improve. Use that to work on yourself as well.
One thing self-reflection helped me solve was ignorance. I used to be totally unaware of people and things happening around me. I was too engrossed in my work that I didn’t know the value of sending compliments of any kind to a loved one, being sensitive to people’s feelings, reactions and watching the things I say.
It has tarnished a lot of relationships over the years, and I still fight the battle of trying to make things right with people I took for granted over the years.
Self-reflection helped me deal with that – I started having real friends, opening up to people, consciously giving gifts, compliments, to even small things like listening to someone who’s hurt.
Self-reflection helped me look at myself more objectively, and I started to notice more flaws I had always ignored or just never noticed. I noticed positive influence on myself, and those around me who I always took for granted.
Self-reflection may be harmful.
Don’t get overwhelmed by flaws you uncover. Focus mainly on your Goals, Identity, Person, Desires, Relationships etc. You can’t cover everything about yourself immediately, but you will eventually.
Don’t dwell on memories. Don’t think about something negative that happened in the past and begin to beat yourself up about them. Don’t try to give yourself too much credit for success either. Appreciate those who helped you get there as well and focus on the positive traits and actions that made you achieve that success.
Don’t lie to yourself, be real with yourself – You know who you are and who you are not. Don’t self-reflect in the wrong mood and environment. It could lead to you making the wrong decisions or taking false sides.
Making The Move
Self-reflection, self-analysis, and self-evaluation will keep you motivated and in line with your goals. It all points to Goals. If you have goals, then you need to reflect on a regular basis.
It’s not a simple task, nor do the questions you get to ask yourself come easy. Do not back out if you can’t find answers to your questions or you are unable to find questions to ask yourself. It doesn’t hurt to try many times.
What other questions do you think will aid in successful self-reflection?
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